In This Chapter
► Strengthening your new, helpful attitudes and beliefs
► Dealing with doubts about a new way of thinking
► Testing out your new ways of thinking in difficult situations Preparing for setbacks
I\ Fter you’ve identified your unhelpful patterns of thinking and developed Ґ \ more helpful attitudes (refer to Chapters 2, 3, 12, and 14), you need to reinforce your new thoughts and beliefs. The process of reinforcing new beliefs is like trying to give up a bad habit and develop a good habit in its place. You need to work at making your new, healthy ways of thinking second nature, at the same time as eroding your old ways of thinking. This chapter describes some simple exercises to help you develop and nurture your new beliefs.
In many ways, Integrating Your new method of thinking with your mind, emotions, and actions is The Critical process in CBT. A parrot can repeat rational philosophies, but the parrot doesn’t understand or Believe What it’s saying. The real work in CBT is turning intellectual understanding into something you that know in your gut to be true.
Defining the Beliefs \lou Want to Strengthen
Many people who work at changing their attitudes and beliefs complain: ‘I know what I Should Think, but I don’t believe it!’ When you begin to adopt a new way of thinking, you may Know That something makes sense but you may not Feel That the new belief is true.


When you’re in a state of Cognitive dissonance You know that your old way of thinking isn’t 100 per cent right, but you aren’t yet convinced of the alternative. Being in a state of cognitive dissonance can be uncomfortable because things don’t feel quite right. However, this feeling is a good sign that things are changing.
In CBT, we often call this disconnection between thinking and truly believing the Head-to-heart problem. Basically, you know that an argument is true in your head, but you don’t feel it in your heart. For example, if you’ve spent many years believing that you’re less worthy than others or that you need the approval of other people in order to approve of yourself, you may have great difficulty Internalising (believing in your gut) an alternative belief. You may find that the idea that you have as much basic human worth as the next person, or that approval from others is a bonus but not a necessity, difficult to buy.
Your alternative beliefs are likely to be about three key areas:
I Yourself
I Other people
I The world
Alternative beliefs may take the following formats:
A Flexible preference, Instead of a rigid demand or rule, such as ‘I’d very much prefer to be loved by my parents, but there’s no reason they absolutely Have To love me.’
An Alternative assumption, Which is basically an if/then statement, such as ‘If I Don’t get an A in my test, Then That won’t be the end of the world. I can still move on in my academic career.’
A global belief, Which expresses a positive healthy general truth, such as ‘I’m basically okay’ rather than ‘I’m worthless’, or ‘The world’s a place with some safe and some dangerous parts’ instead of ‘The world’s a dangerous place’.
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When you do experience the head-to-heart problem, we recommend acting As if‘you really do hold the new belief to be true – we explain how to do this in the following section.
One of your main aims in CBT, after you’ve developed a more helpful alternative belief, is to increase how strongly you endorse your new belief or raise your Strength of conviction (SOC). You can rate how much you believe in an alternative healthy philosophy on a 0-100 percentage scale, 0 represents a total lack of conviction and 100 represents an absolute conviction.
Acting As If I/ou Already Belietfe
You don’t need to believe your new philosophy entirely in order to start changing your behaviour. Starting out, it’s enough to Know In your head that your new belief makes sense and then Act According to your new belief or philosophy. If you consistently do the ‘acting as if technique, which we explain here, your conviction in your new way of thinking is likely to grow over time.
You can use the ‘acting as if technique to consolidate any new way of thinking, in pretty much any situation. Ask yourself the following questions:
How would I behave if I truly considered my new belief to be true?
How would I overcome situational challenges to my new belief if I truly considered it to be true and helpful?
What sort of behaviour would I expect to see in other people who truly endorse this new belief?
You can make a list of your answers to the above questions and refer to it before, after, and even during an experience of using the ‘acting as if technique. For example, if you’re dealing with social anxiety and trying to get to grips with self-acceptance beliefs, use the ‘acting as if techniques that follow, and ask yourself similar kinds of questions, such as:
Act consistently with the new belief: If I truly believed that I was as worthy as anyone else, how would I behave in a social situation?
Be specific about how you’d enter a room, the conversation you may initiate, and what your body language would be like.
Troubleshoot for challenges to your new belief: If I truly believed that I was as worthy as anyone else, how would I react to any social hiccups?
Again, be specific about how you may handle lulls in conversation and moments of social awkwardness.
Observe other people. Does anyone else in the social situation seem to be acting as if they truly endorse the belief that I am trying to adopt?
If so, note how the person acts and how they handle awkward silences and normal breaks in conversation. Imitate their behaviour.
When you act in accordance with a new way of thinking or a specific belief, you reinforce the truth of that belief. The more you experience a belief In action, The more you can appreciate its beneficial effects on your emotions. In essence, you are rewiring your brain to think in a more helpful and realistic way. Give this technique a try, even if you think that it’s wishful thinking or seems silly. Actions do speak louder than words. So if a new belief makes sense to you, follow it up with action.
Budding a Portfolio of Arguments
When an old belief rears its ugly head, try to have on hand some strong arguments to support your new belief. Your old beliefs or thinking habits have probably been with you a long time, and they can be tough to shift. You can expect to argue with yourself about the truth and benefit of your new thinking several times, before the new stuff well and truly replaces the old.
Your portfolio of arguments can consist of a collection of several arguments against your old way of thinking and several arguments in support of your new way of thinking. You can refer to your portfolio anytime that you feel conviction in your new belief is beginning to wane. The following sections help to guide you towards developing sound rationales in support of helpful beliefs and in contradiction of unhelpful beliefs.
Generating arguments against an unhelpful belief
To successfully combat unhealthy beliefs, try the following exercise. At the top of a sheet of paper, write down an old, unhelpful belief you want to weaken. For example, you may write: ‘I have to get approval from significant others, such as my boss. Without approval, I’m worthless.’ Then, consider the following questions to highlight the unhelpful nature of your belief:
Is the belief untrue or inconsistent with reality? Try to find evidence that your belief isn’t factually accurate (or at least not 100 per cent accurate for 100 per cent of all of the time). For example, you don’t Have To get approval from your boss: The universe permits otherwise, and you can survive without such approval. Furthermore, you cannot be defined as worthless on the strength of this experience, because you’re much too complex to be defined.
Considering why a certain belief is Understandable Can help you to explain why you hold a particular belief to be true. For example, ‘It’s understandable that I think I’m stupid because my father often told me I was when I was young, but that was really due to his impatience and his own difficult childhood. So, it follows that I believe myself to be stupid because of my childhood experiences, and not because there is any real truth in the idea that I am stupid. Therefore, the belief that I am stupid is consistent with my upbringing but inconsistent with reality.’

Is the belief rigid? Consider whether your belief is flexible enough to allow you to adapt to reality. For example, the idea that you Must Get approval or that you Need Approval in order to think well of yourself, is overly rigid. It is entirely possible that you will fail to get approval from significant others at some stage in your life. Unless you have a flexible belief about getting approval, you are destined to think badly of yourself whenever approval is not forthcoming. Replace the word Must With Prefer In this instance, and turn your demand for approval into a flexible preference for approval.
Is the belief extreme? Consider whether your unhelpful belief is extreme. For example, equating being disliked by one person with worthlessness is an extreme conclusion. It is rather like concluding that being late for one appointment means that you will always be late for every appointment you have for the rest of your life. The conclusion that you draw from one or more experiences is far too extreme to accurately reflect reality.
Is the belief illogical? Consider whether your belief actually makes sense. You may want approval from your boss, but logically she doesn’t Have To approve of you. Not getting approval from someone significant doesn’t logically lead to you being less worthy. Rather, not getting approval shows that you’ve failed to get approval on this occasion, from this specific person.
Is the belief unhelpful? Consider how your belief may or may not be helping you. For example, if you worry about whether your boss is approving of you, you’ll probably be anxious at work much of the time. You may feel depressed if your boss treats you with indifference or visibly disapproves of your work. You’re less likely to say no to unreasonable requests or to put your opinions forward. You may actually be less effective at work because you’re so focused on making a good impression. You may even assume that your boss is disapproving of you when actually this isn’t the case. So, is worrying about your boss’s approval helpful? Clearly not!
Running through the preceding list of questions is definitely an exercise that involves putting pen to paper or fingertips to keyboard. Try to pick out your unhelpful beliefs and to formulate helpful alternatives, then generate as many watertight arguments against your old belief and in support of your new belief as you can. Try to fill up one side of A4 paper for each belief you target.
You can include in your portfolio evidence gathered from other CBT techniques you use to tackle your problems, such as ABC forms (Chapter 3) and behavioural experiments (Chapter 4). You can use any positive results observed from living according to new healthy beliefs as arguments to support the truth and benefits of these new beliefs.
Generating arguments to support your helpful alternative belief
The guidelines for generating sound arguments to support alternative, more helpful ways of thinking about yourself, other people, and the world, are similar to those suggested in the preceding section, ‘Generating arguments against an unhelpful belief.
On a sheet of paper, write down a helpful alternative belief that you want to use to replace a negative, unhealthy view you hold. For example, a helpful alternative belief regarding approval at work may be: ‘I want approval from significant others, such as my boss, but I don’t Need It. If I don’t get approval, I still have worth as a person.’
Next, develop arguments to support your alternative belief. Ask yourself the following questions to ensure that your helpful alternative belief is strong and effective:
Is the belief true and consistent with reality? For example, you really can want approval and fail to get it sometimes. Just because you want something very much doesn’t mean to say you’ll get it. Lots of people don’t get approval from their bosses, but it doesn’t mean they’re lesser people.
Is the belief flexible? Consider whether your belief allows you to adapt to reality. For example, the idea that you Prefer To get approval but that it isn’t a dire necessity for either survival or self-esteem, allows for the possibility of not getting approval from time to time. You don’t have to form any extreme conclusions about your overall worth in the face of occasions of disapproval.
Is the belief balanced? Consider whether your helpful belief is balanced and non-extreme. For example, ‘Not being liked by my boss is unfortunate but it’s not proof of whether I’m worthwhile as a person.’ This balanced and flexible belief recognises that disapproval from your boss is undesirable and may mean that you need to reassess your work performance. However, this recognition does not hurl you into depression based on the unbalanced belief that you’re unworthy for failing to please your boss on this occasion.
Is the belief logical and sensible? Show how your alternative belief follows logically from the facts, or from your preferences. It follows logically that your boss’s disapproval about one aspect of your work is undesirable and may mean that you need to work harder or differently. It does not follow logically that because of his disapproval you are an overall bad or worthless person.
Is the belief helpful? When you accept that you want approval from your boss but that you don’t Have To get it, you can be less anxious about the possibility of incurring your boss’s disapproval or failing to make a particular impression. You also stand a better chance of making a good impression at work when you prefer, but are not desperate for, approval. You can be more focused on the job that you’re doing and less preoccupied by what your boss may be thinking about you.
Imagine you’re about to go into court to present to the jury arguments in defence of your new belief. Develop as many good arguments that support your new belief as you can. Most people find that listing lots of ways in which the new belief is helpful makes the most impact. Try to generate enough arguments to fill one side of A4 paper for each individual belief.
Review your rational portfolio regularly, not just when your unhealthy belief is triggered. Doing so helps you reaffirm your commitment to thinking in healthy ways.
Understanding That Practice Makes Imperfect
Despite your best efforts, you may continue to think in rigid and extreme ways and experience unhealthy emotions from time to time. Why? Well, – oh yes, we say it again – you’re only human.
Practicing your new, healthy ways of thinking and putting them to regular use minimises your chances of relapse. However, you’re never going to become a perfectly healthy thinker – human beings seem to have a tendency to develop thinking errors and you need a high degree of diligence to resist unhelpful and unhealthy thinking (refer to Chapter 2).
Be wary of having a perfectionist attitude about your thinking. You’re setting yourself up to fail if you expect that you can always be healthy in thought, emotion, and behaviour. Give yourself permission to make mistakes with your new thinking, and use any setbacks as opportunities to discover more about your beliefs.
Beating With your doubts and reservations
You must give full range to your scepticism when you’re changing your beliefs. If you try to sweep your doubts under the carpet, those doubts can
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Re-emerge when you least expect it – usually when you’re in a stressful situation. Consider Sylvester’s experience:
Sylvester, or Sly for short, believes that other people must like him and goes out of his way to put people at ease in social situations. Sly takes great care to never hurt anyone’s feelings and puts pressure on himself to be a good host. Not surprisingly, Sly’s often worn out by his efforts. Because Sly’s work involves managing other staff, he also feels anxious much of the time. Sly also worries about confrontation and what his staff members think of him when he disciplines them.
After having some CBT, Sly concludes that his beliefs need to change if he’s ever going to overcome his anxiety and feelings of panic at work. Sly formulates a healthy alternative belief: ‘I want to be liked by others, but I don’t always Have To be liked. Being disliked is tolerable and doesn’t mean I’m an unlikeable person.’
Sly can see how this new belief makes good sense and can help him feel less anxious about confronting staff members or being not-so-super-entertaining in social situations. But deep inside, Sly feels stirrings of doubt. Still, Sly denies his reservations about the new belief and ignores niggling uncertainty. One day, when Sly’s confronting a staff member about persistent lateness, his underlying doubts rear up. Sly resorts to his old belief because he hasn’t dealt with his doubts effectively. Sly ends up letting his worker off the hook and feeling angry with himself for not dealing with the matter properly.
Had Sly faced up to his misgivings about allowing himself to be disliked, he may have given himself a chance to resolve his feeling. Sly may then have been more prepared to deal with the stressful situation without resorting to his old belief and avoidant behaviour.
Zigging and zagging through the zigzag technique
Use the zigzag technique to strengthen your belief in a new healthy alternative belief or attitude. The zigzag technique involves playing devil’s advocate with yourself. The more you argue the case in favour of a healthy belief and challenge your own attacks on it, the more deeply you can come to believe in it. Figure 15-1 shows a completed zigzag form based on Sly’s example.
HEALTHY BELIEF
I want to be liked by other people but I don’t Always haveXo Be liked. It’s tolerable to be disliked and it doesn’t mean that I’m an unlikable person.
Rate conviction in Healthy Belief 40 %
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ZIG-ZAG
FORM
ATTACK
Yeah but, if LOTS of People don’t like me it’s awful! I can’t stand that.
DEFENCE

Lots of people not liking me would be Unfortunate But not the worst thing in the world. Trying to get everyone to like me makes me really clumsy and anxious socially.

ATTACK
But lots of people not liking me Must Mean there’s something wrong with me. It proves I’m unlikable.
DEFENCE
Figure 15-1:
Sly’s completed zigzag form.
First of all, I’m more likely to Assume Lots of people don’t like me and I don’t actually know that it’s true. I simply can’t be everyone’s cup of tea. /like some people more than others and it doesn’t mean there’s something wrong with them.
Rate conviction in Healthy Belief 75 %
You can find a blank zigzag form in Appendix B. To go through the zigzag technique, do the following steps:
1. Write down in the top left-hand box of the zigzag form a belief that you want to strengthen.
On the form, rate how strongly you endorse this belief, from 0 to 100 per cent conviction.

Be sure that the belief’s consistent with reality or true, logical, and helpful to you. Refer to the section that covers generating arguments to support your helpful alternative beliefs, for more on testing your healthy belief.
2. In the next box down, write your doubts, reservations, or challenges about the healthy belief.
Really let yourself attack the belief, using all the unhealthy arguments that come to mind.
3. In the next box, dispute your attack and redefend the healthy belief.
Focus on defending the healthy belief. Don’t become sidetracked by any points raised in your attack from Step 2.
4. Repeat Steps 2 and 3 until you exhaust all your attacks on the healthy belief.
Be sure to use up all your doubts and reservations about choosing to really go for the new, healthy alternative way of thinking. Use as many forms as you need and be sure to stop on a defence of the belief you want to establish rather than on an attack.
5. Re-rate, from 0 To 100 Per cent, how strongly you endorse the healthy belief after going through all your doubts.

If your conviction in the healthy belief hasn’t increased or has increased only slightly, revisit the previous instructions on how to use the zigzag form. Or, if you have a CBT therapist, discuss the form with her and see whether she can spot where you zigged when you should have zagged.
Putting your new beliefs to the test
Doing pen-and-paper exercises is great – they really can help you to move your new beliefs from your head to your heart.
However, the best way to make your new ways of thinking more automatic is to put them to the test. Putting them to the test means going into familiar situations where your old attitudes are typically triggered, and acting according to your new way of thinking.
So, our friend Sly from earlier in the chapter may choose to do the following to test his new beliefs:
Sly confronts his member of staff about her lateness in a forthright manner. Sly bears the discomfort of upsetting her and remembers that being disliked by one worker doesn’t prove that he’s an unlikeable person.
Sly throws a party and resists the urge to make himself busy entertaining everyone and playing the host.
Sly works less hard in work and social situations at putting everyone at ease and trying to be super-likeable mister nice guy.
If you’re really, really serious about making your new beliefs stick, you can Seek out Situations in which to test them. On top of using your new beliefs and their knock-on new behaviours in everyday situations, try setting difficult tests for yourself. Sit down and think about it: If you were still operating under your old beliefs, what situations would really freak you out? Go there. Doing this will ‘up the ante’ with regard to endorsing your new beliefs.
Coping with everyday situations, such as Sly’s previous example, is very useful, and they’re often enough to move your new belief from your head to your heart. But if you really want to put your new beliefs under strain, with a view to making them even stronger, put yourself into out-of-the-ordinary situations. For example, try deliberately doing something ridiculous in public or being purposefully rude and aloof. See if you can remain resolute in your new belief such as ‘disapproval does not mean unworthiness’ in the face of your most feared outcomes. We think you can! This is a tried and tested CBT tool for overcoming all sorts of problems, such as social anxiety. (Refer to Chapter 12 for more guidance on developing Self-acceptance And Chapter 22 for more on devising Shame attacking Exercises.)
Here are some tests that Sly (or we could now call him ‘Braveheart’) may set up for himself:
Go into shops and deliberately be impolite by not saying ‘thank you’ and not smiling at the shop assistant. This test requires Sly to bear the discomfort of possibly leaving the shop assistant unhappy after making a poor impression.
Say good morning to staff without smiling and allow them to form the impression that he was ‘in a bad mood’.
Mooch about, deliberately trying to look moody and aloof in a social setting.
I Make a complaint about faulty goods he’s purchased from a local shop where the staff know him.
I Bump into someone on public transport and do not apologise.
You may think that Sly’s setting himself up to be utterly friendless as a result of this wretched belief change lark. Au contraire, nos chere! Sly has friends. Sly still has a reputation of being a generally kind and affable bloke. What Sly doesn’t have now is a debilitating belief that he has to please all the people all the time. Rather, Sly can come to truly believe that he can tolerate the discomfort of upsetting people occasionally and that being disliked by one or more people is part of being human. That’s life. That’s the way it goes sometimes. Sly can believe in his heart that he’s a fallible human being, just like everyone else, that he’s capable of being liked and disliked but basically he’s okay.
Nurturing \lour NeuJ Beliefs
As you continue to live with your alternative helpful beliefs, gather evidence that supports your new beliefs. Becoming more aware of evidence from yourself, other people, and the world around you that supports your new, more helpful way of thinking, is one of the keys to strengthening your beliefs and keeping them strong.
A Positive data log Helps you overcome the biased, prejudiced way in which you keep unhelpful beliefs well-fed, by soaking up evidence that fits with them and discounting or distorting evidence that doesn’t fit. Using a positive data log boosts the available data that fit your new belief and helps you to retrain yourself to take in the positive.
Your positive data log is simply a record of positive results arising from acting in accordance with a healthy new belief and evidence that contradicts your old unhealthy belief. You can use any type of notebook to record your evidence. Follow these steps:
1. Write your new belief at the top of a page.
2. Record any experiences that support your new belief.
Be specific and include even the smallest details that encourage you to doubt your old way of thinking. For example, even a newspaper vendor making small talk when you buy your paper can be used as evidence to support a belief that you are likeable.

3. Record positive reactions that you get from others when you act in accordance with new beliefs.
4. Record evidence that your new belief is helpful to you; include changes in your emotions and behaviour.
Fill up the whole notebook if you can.
If you still have trouble believing that an old, unhelpful belief is true, start by collecting evidence on a daily basis that your old belief isn’t 100 per cent true, 100 per cent all of the time. Collecting this sort of evidence can help you steadily erode how true the belief seems.
In your positive data log, you can list the benefits of operating under your new belief, including all the ways in which your fears about doing so have been disproved.
For example, Sly might record the following observations:
His staff members still seem to generally like being managed by him, despite the fact that he disciplines them when needed.
Being less gregarious at parties doesn’t stop others from having a good time or from engaging with him.
His anxiety and panic about the possibility of being disliked have reduced in response to his belief change.
Your positive data log can not only remind you of the good results you have reaped from changing your unhealthy beliefs to healthy ones, but also help you be Compassionate With yourself when you relapse to your unhealthy beliefs and corresponding behaviours. Use your positive data log to chart your progress, so when you Do Fall back you can assure yourself that your setback need be only temporary. After all, practice makes imperfect.
Many people add to their positive data log for months or even years. Keeping the log provides them with a useful antidote to the natural tendency to be overly self-critical.
Be sure to refer to your positive data log often, even daily, or several times each day when you are bedding down new beliefs. Keep it in your desk or handbag or wherever you are most likely to be able to access it during the day. As a general rule, you can’t look at your positive data log too often!


Buteyko
Pranayama


Where can I learn pranayama?
Buteyko breathing training
Buteyko’s method is based on the idea that incorrect over-breathing (hyper-ventilation) lowers carbon dioxide levels in the body – carbon dioxide is as necessary as oxygen for certain body processes and the two need to be in a correct ratio. He argued that over-breathing, and breathing through the mouth, means that the body cannot utilise oxygen efficiently and so people may become breathless, nervous, tired, or unwell.
His method emphasises breathing through the nose, using the diaphragm to breathe fully, and slowing down and holding the breath to correct this imbalance. The idea is that you train yourself to use a lesser volume of air more effectively.
The Buteyko method is usually taught by a trained Buteyko teacher in a series of five 90-minute lectures and practical sessions taken over five days. However, some shorter training courses are also now available and follow-up, regular self-practice is essential. The aim is to reduce your number of breaths
What’s the evidence?
The Asanas Facilitate muscle stretching, toning and endurance, flexibility, relaxation, and correct breathing. On a more subtle level, the Asanas Are also believed to facilitate the flow of vital energy, or Prana, In the energy channels known as the Nadis - these are believed to correspond closely to the meridian system of acupuncture – and to promote healing.
How can I learn yoga asanas?
Close your left nostril by pressing the ring finger against it.



Gradireiun massaggio.
Pan bow Ian.
Mujhe massage chahiye.
The coach-class self-massage
1. Lean forward slightly (not too far, or else you’ll bang your head into the tray table of the seat in front of you), and hook your thumbs into the tender neck muscles just below the bony ridge at the base of your skull. Press in here, making little circles with your thumbs as you apply firm pressure, as shown in Figure 17-la.
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Number of miles. The common element in both equations is the number of gallons of each type of gas — and the number of gallons answers the question, too. Let R Represent the number of gallons of regular gas and P Represent the number of gallons of premium gas. The total cost, $104.40 = $2.70r + $3.15p. The total number of miles, 748 = 19r + 23p. None of the coefficients of the variables is equal to 1, so you have to make a choice as to which variable to solve for. Because the coefficient 19 is the smallest number, I opt to solve for R In the second equation and replace the R In the first equation with that equivalence in terms of P.
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Solving Systems of Quadratic Equations
A quadratic equation occurs when you have one or more terms containing a variable raised to the second power. For example, the equation Y = 3k1 + 2x is a quadratic equation. Solving systems of equations involving quadratic equations leads to some interesting results. You usually end up with more than one solution to the system. Sometimes more than one solution means that there’s more than one answer. Often, though, it means that one of the answers fits the situation and the other is just Extraneous — it satisfies the system of equations, but it doesn’t really have any meaning in the practical problem.
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Technically, this is a system-of-equations problem, because you could write that the second number, Y, Has the relationship Y = X - 4. The substitution is done here almost automatically.